Editor’s tip: There are specific left- and right-hand harnesses, so consider which hand you use more when getting down before you purchase. It’s also available in XS/S, M/L, and XL sizes.
Type: hand harness | Material: velcro
Best Penis Toy: Blowmotion Suction Vibrating Male Masturbator
Why we love it: People who have a penis and a condition like cerebral palsy or arthritis may want to try this toy. With a penis sleeve, “You don’t need as much steady hand motion to reach orgasm,” explains Dr. Iantaffi. This one is especially luxe, as it’s designed with two speeds, four vibration modes, and three suction modes that feel oh-so-good.
Editor’s tip: It may be marketed as a masturbator, but there’s no reason you can’t incorporate this into partnered sex. You could ask a partner to bring you right to the brink of orgasm (a.k.a. edging) with this toy or allow them to go all the way to the grand finale.
Type: penis sleeve | Material: soft plastic | Modes: two speeds, four vibration settings, three suction modes | Waterproof: splashproof | Battery: 80 minutes | Lube compatibility: water-based lube
Best for Penetration: Ohnut Depth-Limiting Rings
Why we love it: Dr. Iantaffi notes that for people with pelvic pain or chronic pain conditions, a tool like the Ohnut Depth-Limiting Rings can make penetration more comfortable. The silicone rings go around the base of a toy or penis and make it impossible to penetrate too deeply. Use one ring if you only want to reduce depth slightly and up to four to reduce penetrative depth by a lot.
Editor’s tip: These rings can also make sex more comfortable for people who are postpartum, menopausal, or have endometriosis. Everyone deserves to feel comfortable during sex!
Type: penis rings | Material: body-safe polymer | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based lube, silicone-based lube
Frequently Asked Questions
What are some of the challenges disabled people face when shopping for sex toys?
If you have a disability, you already know that many things in our society are not built with disabled bodies in mind. Historically, this has also applied to sex toys, but this is slowly changing thanks to businesses like Cute Little F*ckers, a disabled-owned, queer-owned, and trans-owned company.
Beyond that, there’s also a stigma around sex and disability. “The assumption is that if your body is not ‘ideal,’ then you are not desirable or sexy and that you are inherently asexual. This cannot be further from the truth,” says Nellie Galindo, founder of Accessible Sexual Health.
What sex toys are best for someone with a disability?
All three experts Allure spoke with for this story emphasized that all bodies are different, and therefore no one type of sex toy is best for someone with a disability.