For some people, receiving and performing oral sex is the best. It’s intimate, it’s hot, and it can give you an incredibly intense orgasm that feels like nothing you’ve ever experienced before. Plus, the tongue is a powerful muscle capable of intensely stimulating some of the body’s most sensitive erogenous zones. But the problem is that so many default oral-sex positions can feel uncomfortable to be in for long periods of time.
Fortunately, there are some comfortable oral-sex positions out there, and they’re just as hot and fun as they are easy on your body. Whether you’re looking for an incredible blowjob sex position or something for cunnilingus, you don’t need to be in pain after pleasing your partner.
With help from experts, here are some specific blowjob sex positions and oral sex positions to try the next time you want to go down on your partner. Trust me, when you’re less focused on sex gymnastics and more focused on the actual stimulation, you’ll never want to stop.
Experts Featured in This Article
Carol Queen, PhD, is a sexologist for sex-toy retailer Good Vibes.
Blowjob Sex Positions
As far as blowjob-specific sex positions go, sexologist Carol Queen, PhD, says blowjobs aren’t normally comfortable because of the way a penis naturally curves. “Most penises have some degree of curve to them, and often the positions we choose — or just wind up in, TBH — have the penis curving one way, and the curve of our mouth cavity and throat going the other.” This is the reason kneeling in front of your partner doesn’t always work.
Instead, Queen suggests getting into positions where the penis follows “the curvature of your mouth,” which will allow you to enjoy blowjobs more and stay more comfortable as you give them. Below, here are some comfortable blowjob sex positions that won’t make your neck hurt.
Sideways 69
In the typical 69 sex position, one partner lies on their back while the other partner hovers over them with their body facing the opposite way. This may work for short stints, but if you say your arms never get tired from supporting yourself, you’re probably lying. The sideways 69 sex position, however, offers both parties all the good parts of 69ing, minus the strain.
For this blowjob sex position, both partners should face each other and lie on their sides, with one partner’s head in line with the other’s genitals and vice versa. From here, both partners can go down on each other simultaneously. For blowjobs specifically, this is a position Queen recommends since your mouth will likely be aligned with the curve of your partner’s penis.
Face Down, Ass Up
This is another blowjob sex position that’s both comfy and kinky. Similarly to 69 and sideways 69, the receiver lies on their back, while the other partner kneels over the receiver with their butt in the direction of the receiver’s face, Queen says. You can do this with both your legs on one side of their body or fully straddling them. “From that position, the penis (most commonly) curves in the same direction as your throat, which is easier to maneuver, even if you are not trying to deep-throat them,” Queen says.
Oral-Sex Positions
Want some oral-sex positions you can use, no matter your partner’s genitalia? Here are the easiest, most comfortable sex positions when you’re going down on your partner.
Sitting Pretty
Use the edge of the bed or a comfy chair to your advantage, and have oral sex while sitting down. For this oral-sex position, the receiver should sit as far to the edge of a comfortable surface as they can, and the giver will perform oral while sitting or kneeling in front of them, using their partner’s hips as an anchor if necessary. This position allows the receiving partner to maintain full support of their body, and it allows the partner performing oral to spread their bodyweight across their legs instead of just their knees.
Classic Horizontal Oral
A classic oral-sex position you can’t go wrong with is one in which the receiver lies on their back, while the giver lies on their stomach with their head at their partner’s pelvis. For added leverage, the giver can wrap their arms around their partner’s upper thighs. For added stimulation, the giver can use a free hand to finger their partner, massage their balls, or tease their nipples. Regardless, both partners’ bodies are fully supported on the bed at all times.
The Kivin Method
The Kivin method, or sideways oral, is one of the more underrated oral-sex positions. Not to be confused with sideways 69, the Kivin method involves the receiver lying on their back, bending one leg at the knee, and bringing that same knee up toward their chest. The giver lies perpendicular to their partner, placing their neck under their partner’s raised leg and their head at their partner’s genitals. Given the angle, this position gives way for even more stimulation and pleasure for clitoris owners.
Tummy Time
In this oral-sex position, both partners lie on their stomachs. The giving partner will lie with their head between their partner’s legs at their pelvis. This is a solid position for anal play. For a slightly better angle — especially if the receiving partner has a vulva and clitoris — slide a pillow underneath the receiving partner’s pelvis to elevate their hips and allow the giver an easier reach.
Modified Face Sitting
Modified face sitting is a slightly easier solution than putting your entire body weight on someone’s face. For this, the giving partner should lie on their back, with their upper body propped up at an angle using a couple of pillows. The receiving partner should then comfortably mount their partner’s face, using the bed frame or wall in front of them as a balance. This should, ideally, require less effort on both the giver and receiver’s part.
T Stand
Standing sex positions can easily be adapted for oral sex. If you have a mattress that’s lower to the ground, try the T stand, an oral-sex position in which you and your partner will form a sideways capital T. The giver should lie on their back with their head at the very end of the bed’s corner, while the receiver faces the bed and stands over their partner’s head. From this position, the receiver can easily lean over and tease and pleasure their partner during sex.
— Additional reporting by Taylor Andrews
Theresa Massony is the former senior living editor at POPSUGAR, overseeing home, food, love, sex, tech, astrology, and more content.
Taylor Andrews is a Balance editor at PS who specializes in topics relating to sex, relationships, dating, sexual health, mental health, and more.